Bridesmaids do a lot for their bride, and sometimes even end up spending a lot of money. They are often responsible for planning and throwing bridal showers, bachelorette parties, and depending on their bride will pay for their own no-negotiations bridesmaid dress. Even though wedding planning is stressful, it is important to remember that a little thank you can go a long way in making your ladies feel appreciated. That’s where Wedding Collectibles comes in!
How to Tell Someone They Won’t be a Bridesmaid
When you get engaged you are going to be face with a million decisions big and small. One of which will be who to include in your bridal party. This can be difficult if you have a lot of friends and family members that you care about and have been important parts of your life. Really, to have so many people in your life that are important to you is a blessing, but when it comes to narrowing it down for your bridesmaids, it becomes a curse.
Weddings are wonderful and being invited to celebrate with a happy couple is an honor. Part of being a good wedding guest will be to give a gift (within your means of course) that the bride and groom will appreciate and love. There are a lot of different types of wedding presents you can give; such as funny gifts like corny couples board games, wedding day wedding gifts like the traditional bridal handkerchief or helping pay for a specific part of the wedding, and then there are the gifts that help the bride and groom build their home together. Within this last category there really are two types of home building gifts you can give – the utilitarian and of use gifts or the more aesthetic home decor type gifts. So let’s ask this question: Does a toaster make a house feel like a home or does a throw pillow?
Here are some gifts that we feel help couples build their home.
Help the bride and groom get ready to be hosts! One of the first things couples have a tendency to like to do after moving into their new place and new life is to invite in family and friends to celebrate. It is likely that unless they received party platters and serving dishes for wedding gifts that they will be prepared. While these may not be an item that is out on display all of the time, they are a great home builder and a step up from their first house party treats being served on paper plates! Another gift we have that is on a similar thread is a party glassware set or a cake plate. These types of gifts always come in handy, but tend to be hard to justify buying when you are on a newlywed budget, making it a perfect gift to give! Continue reading
Pros and Cons of Buying a Wedding Emergency Kit or Making One
Whether you buy a pre-made kit or create your own, a wedding emergency kit is definitely a must have for the wedding day. If you are putting together your own, you will need to have a worst-case-scenario session in which you make a list of all of the emergency items you will need. This could end up inducing stress and will also most likely lead to leaving out a lot of essentials. Buying an Wedding Emergency Kit can end up being more convenient, will ease the stress of that worst case scenario, and could end up leading to some fun! I guess a con could be that it would be less customizable to you and your particular concerns, but you can often find kits specific to your role in the wedding (ie. bride, groom, bridesmaid, mother, etc) and can at the very least be a great place to start. Plus, they are really really cute! Continue reading
2 Gifts to Make the Father of the Bride Feel Special
All of the time when people think about weddings they first think of the bride and then of the mother and the bride and how exciting it must be for the mom, but there are a lot of daddy’s girls out there and fathers that would even surprise their daughters with how excited they are for their daughter. Father’s have a tendency of showing a little extra emotion on the day of his baby girls wedding. We want to help you highlight the role he has in your wedding and in your life. Here are two simple ways to help you let your father know what he means to you!
- Gift him With Special cuff links to Proudly Wear on the Wedding day.Cuff links are a perfect way to give your dad a little something extra that designates him as the father of the bride. You can bet that he will wear these proudly and may even find an excuse to wear them at his next business meeting or with his Sunday best!
- Give him a sentimental wedding handkerchief.
This sweet and traditional gift is not just for the bride, but is also traditionally given to members of the brides family and even bridal party. The above wedding handkerchief includes a special poem from the bride to the father that is sure to cause your dad to actually need that handkerchief!
A Gift from You to Your Groom: Don’t Forget it is His Wedding Too!
When people bring up wedding planning and that “big day”, they usually focus on the bride and what she wants. Now, this isn’t wrong or bad. A majority of brides have been day dreaming about their wedding day since they were little girls. This does not, however, that there are not any grooms out there that haven’t been doing the same, and even if they have not, that does not take away from the fact that it is there wedding day too. So, we would suggest making sure your groom is given the same amount of doting as the bride.
Start by treating him to a night out with the boys to celebrate his new commitment. Why only have him celebrate at his bachelor’s party? Through all the stress of wedding planning, relaxing with the guys and watching the sports game will be the perfect way to keep tempers down, just like the bride needs time with her girls to get pedicures and catch a chick flick. What better way to make sure your groom knows you appreciate his support and help then gifting him with sports paraphernalia like the above engraved pint glasses and a free night to not worry about wedding planning woes?
Then treat him to some masculine wedding “bling”. One of the perks of the wedding day for a bride is the excuse to get new earring, bracelets, or necklaces to accessorize with her beautiful wedding dress. Typically, this means getting the best jewelry to create the best and most classy wedding look. Why should the bride be the only one to enjoy some classy glitz. So, go order your groom some cuff links and a tie clip to dress his wedding suite. This is the time to let yourself buy things that you wouldn’t typically have reason or justification for spending the money on.
Fun Ways to Ask Your Best Gal to be Your Maid of Honor
Choosing your Maid of Honor is an important decision and one that you will want to make early on because depending on how involved you decide to make her role, she will be your right hand girl to help you through all of your wedding planning and any wedding drama. Now, once you have chosen who you want your maid of honor to be, you have to ask her! It is a big honor and a big responsibility, so ask in a creative way!
Ideas on How to Ask
1. Plain and simple: Take her out to lunch or go get your nails done together and just spit it on out! Don’t be nervous. It is not a marriage proposal!
2. If you know it is a done deal and your bestie is a social media guru, then why not post a picture of the two of you, or even a collage, and tag her in it with the caption “Me and My Maid of Honor”
3. Make her a card or order a cute “will you be my maid of honor” card on Etsy and pair it with a personalized necklace as a symbol of her role in your wedding and your life. This is one you can give in person, or if she lives long distance you can mail it!!
4. Using one of our wedding collectibles “maid of honor” transfers, create a maid of honor t-shirt! By using a transfer you can choose any t-shirt in any color. This means you have full control over the cut and fit and can choose a shirt in one of your wedding colors. If you have multiple wedding colors, or just love everything colorful, another option would be to do a tie dye shirt!
How to Choose Your Wedding Party
Who Makes up the Wedding Party?
When trying to figure out who is in the wedding party, you have to navigate first what cultural or religious traditions you wish to uphold. For example, for many christian weddings a candle lighter will light candles at the wedding alter before the mother of the bride is seated. If you decided to include this tradition as part of the ceremony, the candle lighter (usually a pre-teen; ages 10-13) is a member of the wedding party. Or in a Jewish wedding you may have Huppah carriers, and they would be considered a part of the wedding party, or since in many Jewish weddings it is not traditional to have an official wedding party, then they would be a part of the Shushavim (those close to the bride or groom that help with the wedding – for more information see Attendants: A Glossary of Who’s Who in the Wedding Party). For a more basic wedding party, the members will include: The mother and father of the bride,mother and father of the groom,maid of honor,best man,bridesmaids, the groomsmen, junior bridesmaids/groomsmen, pages/train bearers, the flower girl, the ring bearer, and ushers. Overwhelmed? Don’t Be!
SO Whose Who?
- Mother and Father of the bride and groom: Don’t sweat it, this one is decided for you! However, if your parents are divorced and remarried you can feel free to include their new spouses and if you were raised by your grandparents or another relative, they would stand in here. It is up to you!
- Maid-of-Honor: The maid-of-honor is exactly how the movies portray her. This is your bestest and closest girlfriend or sister. She has been by your side through the thick and thin, perhaps is the friend you grew up with or the one that makes you feel like she has always been there. She is the sister you compete with, but when the bomb drops she is there picking you up and planning revenge on whoever dropped that bomb! If your she is actually a he, that works to. The maid of honor is also considered and called the honor attendant or the best person. Using one of these titles allows for any gender to be the bestie you have at your side throughout all the wedding planning.
- Best Man: The best man is basically the male version of the maid of honor. He is the brother or the guy you consider a brother. Or just like the maid of honor, he could be a she and would then be that best person or honor attendant.
- Bridesmaids: These are your best gals. The ones you trust to be a support and help through the wedding. They will be the ones that help you address invitations, navigate through the florist crisis, and plan that wild bachelorette party. You can consider the maid of honor as the CEO of the bridesmaids.
- Groomsmen: Again, groomsmen are like the male version of the bridesmaid. Their most obvious task is to plan that bachelor’s party, but they also have the task of keeping the bride from murdering the groom before the wedding; ie. making sure the groom isn’t late, doesn’t miss appointments to pick out ribbon colors, and isn’t hung over during the ceremony.
- Junior Bridesmaids/Groomsmen: These are your bridesmaids and groomsmen that are on the younger side (Aged 10-17). Junior meaning quite literally junior. They can match the bridesmaids and groomsmen or you can dress them in a younger and more modest look that still coordinates with the rest of the party.
- Pages or better known as Train Bearers: These are the cute kids (age 6-9) you have that walk with you down the aisle carrying your dress train. If you don’t have a train, or do not need someone to carry it for you, then you will not need a page.
- Flower Girl: You can have 1-2 flower girls (Age 5-9). Some will just walk the aisle with a bouquet, or if you want they can carry baskets with flower petals and scatter the petals as they walk. Either way, they help make your grand entrance, so just remember that the younger the flower girl, the less control you have over her choice to or to not eat the flower petals.
- Ring Bearer: The ring bearer will carry the ring down the aisle and hold it for the groom. This can be a young boy (age 5-9), but like the flower girl, you want to be careful he won’t decide to eat the rings. Another option for this is to have the honor attendants carry the rings.
- Ushers: If you have a large guest list, you may include ushers. These will be those who you have help guide the guests to their seats.
How Many Bridesmaids and Groomsmen Should I have?
We would suggest having no more than six for each group, making a total of twelve, but even that may be too big. Try trimming it down to three or four each. Perhaps have your two honor attendants, and then six bridesmaids and groomsmen total.
What about my cousin and my brother’s girlfriend and my brother’s girlfriend’s sister?
STOP. Only choose bridesmaids and wedding party members based on their relationship to you and your groom. If you have best friends that fill the list for potential bridesmaids, you don’t even have to ask your sister. Granted, you may want to sit her down and let her know, but it is not a requirement. Only ask those who will be able to support and help you through the wedding and who you have a close relationship with. Many people even consider bridesmaids to be a role specific to friends of the bride and that a sisters role is simply sister of the bride.
Why They are Necessary
To Answer the question, “Do you have to give out bridesmaid gifts?”, the answer is technically no, but YES. Each and every Bride is unique in taste, style, and situation, so to say you have to do anything might seem silly, but it is better etiquette to give gifts. Why? The girls or women you ask to be your bridesmaids, well, they are your girls! You ask them because they are your family, your best friends,and the girls that have been there for you always, so now that you have set them apart from the rest, it is the perfect opportunity for you to say thank you. You are saying thank you for their support and help in planning your big day and for all their love and support throughout life. It is kind of a big deal.
3 Ideas for a GREAT Bridesmaid Gift
- Jewelry: You might see this as a duh gift, but that is just what makes it number one on our list. Jewelry is great because you can use it to say something sentimental, sweet, and just-between-you-two. Wedding Collectibles has a wide selection of unique necklaces and bracelets, as well as a selection that can be engraved in order to personalize it for each of your bridesmaids. When deciding on a gift, we suggest to really stop and consider what it is your bridesmaids will appreciate most, which is why we highly recommend necklaces like the one above. This is a gift that could be worn at the wedding, and your bridesmaids could wear it throughout their everyday life. Additionally, if you want to do something a little extra, a necklace, bracelet, or pair of earrings, can be given alongside a jewelry box.
- Technology Cases: This gift might seem a little less affectionate, but it is perfect for a bride and bridal party that lives right along the pulse of modern society. You can decide between a bright or more subtle color pallet, to choose to give a set for all their technology devices or to just pick one, and you have the option of cases that can have the bridesmaids entire name on it or just her initials. It’s bright color options, personalization, and current attitude, make these gifts a perfect bridesmaid gift!
- Just For a Bridesmaid: What we mean by this type of gift is that it is a gift set aside specifically for a bridesmaid, so much so that it will most likely say bridesmaid somewhere on it. Some fun ideas for this gift include, t-shirts, sweats, jackets, make-up cases, and the bridesmaid survival kit! These type of gifts are a great way to celebrate the wedding day and their role in it.
Being invited to join a bride and groom on their wedding day is a special privilege. It is important to show your support for the new couple on their special day, not only by attending, but also by giving a gift. You may decide to give a gift designed for both the bride and groom, or to the bride and groom individually, depending on your relationship with each. So what gifts can you give? Here are a few ideas:
For the Bride: Something Sweet and Sentimental
One traditional gift for the bride is the wedding handkerchief. This is a gift that is appropriate from a family member or a friend who is extremely close to the family and more particularly the bride. This can be a particularly sweet gift from the father of the bride. The handkerchief in the image above comes with a sweet poem card, a lucky penny, and a blue ribbon; All of which are meant to help tell the bride just how happy you are for her and to wish the happy couple the best. Other handkerchiefs can be embroidered with sweet sentiments or customized with the names of the bride and groom, the date of the wedding, or perhaps their favorite scripture.
Help the Couple Make their House(or apartment) a Home
A sweet, and less intimate gift, is customized home decor. Be it a painting, print, or embroidered pillow, a bride always appreciates something nice for her home that represents her love with her groom. A popular trend is home-state decor. These come in a variety of shapes, but are designed to have the home state of the bride and the groom brought together or the state they are beginning their home in printed on the canvas, blanket, or pillow.
Every newlywed appreciates kitchenware items to build their home, but if you are going the kitchenware route, take it one step farther and make it unique for your blushing bride. Monogramming everything you own may be a trend of the past, but monogramming wedding gifts to symbolize the union of two families, is a trend happening right now. If you know the bride and groom have a taste for whine, then why not give the gift of a personalized whine decanter or whine glasses? Or if your Bride is often a hostess or you know she has a particularly sweet sweet-tooth then a personalized dessert bowl would be a perfect gift.