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How to Plan Your Wedding Without Stress

Wedding Stress got you down?

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If we are all being honest here, we know that there is a certain level of stress to be expected in planning an event like a wedding. Below are five strategies to help you keep that stress level down, if not get rid of stress entirely!

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The Best Marriage Advice You’ll Ever Hear…

Britt from Bachelor Engagement

Photographer: Trinity Jensen

The Best Marriage Advice You’ll Ever Hear…

For today’s blog, we decided to ask a question of as many people as we could possible connect with to hopefully give our brides easy access to what real brides, real couples, have found to be the truly best marriage advice they have ever heard.

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Earlier in the week, we shared on our Facebook page what some of us at Weddingcollectibles.com have found to be the best advice, but we thought our brides and grooms deserved a much larger sample size! The thing is, a lot of relationship and marriage advice will end up contradicting itself. This is because every person and relationship is a little bit different (that and people love to spout cliches for the heck of it as they sign your guest book). So this list represents what we saw popping up the most and we quoted who we think really said it best!

The top 10 advice from the thick of it: 

  1. “I just saw a video clip from Will Smith lately. He says that it is not our partners job to make us happy, it is our own responsibility. Once you remove the expectation of your partner to make you happy you can enjoy them for who they are.” – Tiffany
  2. “Listen.. don’t just hear! ” – Carin
  3. “You have to want to be kind more than you want to be right.” -Heidi
  4. “As cliche as it sounds, it is definitely true! “Never go to bed angry”. My husband and I have been together 6 years, married for 2, and have a 9.5 month old. We do disagree sometimes and get in the bed angry, but we always talk it out and work it out right before we fall asleep. Definitely has helped us!” – Maria
  5. ” ‘Always fight naked because then your problems just won’t seem that important anymore’. I always write this in couple’s guest books when they want a little note. Someone wrote it in mind and it just stuck with me. It was kind of a joke, but when you think about it, it’s kind of cool. When you are both hands down vulnerable with each other, it’s a lot easy to get over being mad.” – Kim
  6. “Don’t ever stop dating and getting to know each other. People always talk about growing apart, but if you keep getting to know one another as you go through life, it’s a lot easier to still know and love each other.” – Debbie
  7. “Do the opposite of “It’s better to ask for forgiveness, than permission”. That line just doesn’t work in a marriage” – Kevin
  8. “Limit money talk to small daily check ins. You’ve got to both know what’s up and be on the same page, but leaving it till you’ve got problems or talking about it for hours is just going to create frustration.” -Kayla
  9. “Play hooky. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day things. Be sure to break it up and be spontaneous. Have some silly fun!” -Cheri
  10. “Say I love you in your spouses love language. Some people just need to hear, other’s need gestures, and other’s physical contact…whatever it is, figure out your spouses love language and say I love you every day” -Demi

Tips From Real Life Proposal Stories

How to ask one of the most important questions of your life:

Asking someone to marry you is a big deal. It shouldn’t be done for the heck of it, nor should it be a last ditch effort to save a crumbling relationship. Marriage is a wonderful and hard thing. The proposal is the first step. Take a look at these real life stories to figure out the secret of the perfect proposal.

Real Life Proposals

Melissa B.: Spent all day at our favorite place, Disneyland. At night when the Sleeping Beauty Castle was lit, he proposed to me surrounded by family and park-goers and it was perfect! One of my favorite memories is noticing his hand fidgeting in mine as we approached the castle. I loved finding out that it was because he was about to propose!

Steve M.: I asked Kim to marry me via an Easter egg hunt. She had to spell out will you marry me and the ring was in a big plastic gold egg.

Ashley K.Zach proposed to me in the evening at home in our pajamas. We had just watched a show, and he left the room, came back, and said he was happiest at home with me and the cats. Then, as formal as you can be wearing pajamas, he got on one knee and proposed. I said yes and he put my ring on. Then he nearly passed out from being too overwhelmed lol. He’s sweet.

Christine M.We had just moved into our first apartment as a couple (we lived with 4-5 roommates prior). It was late, and we both had a long day at work. We were hanging out in our little kitchen, and I was sitting on the counter. We were surrounded by stacks of boxes waiting to be unpacked. However, we just wanted to have a drink, hang out, laugh together, and just soak in the newness of our place. That’s when he proposed. It was so simple, but it was genuine and beautiful. It wasn’t over the top, but it was us. Apparently he was holding onto the ring for a while and was waiting for “the moment”. He couldn’t have had better timing.

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Cameo My husband waited until 1 am to write a huge complex math equation on the chalkboard at our study lounge in college and then asked me to help him solve it. I said no which led to an argument that ended with him writing the answer to the problem, which was “will you marry me?” and him throwing the ring at me and storming out. I quickly followed after him and asked him if we could start over. After he helped me solve the math equation and I said yes, we went and got slurpees to celebrate.

Mike M.: Made her dinner at her place before she got home. Had the first clue for a scavenger hunt under her plate. When she was done eating I removed her plate and the hunt began. I wrote all the clues. The last clue said, “I hate it when there’s rocks in my shoe!” It led her to her closet where I had planted her ring in one of her shoes. When she came out of her closet I was on a knee and asked for her hand in marriage. This June will be 23 years! 😍😍
Jill S.:  I came back to my hometown to cheer my high school homecoming game the October after graduating (I was a cheerleader in high school and alumni are invited to cheer at homecoming every year). During half time, my boyfriend came down and asked me to introduce him to the coach. So we walk over and he shakes his hand and the coach asks him, “are you ready?” My boyfriend says yes… And I say ready for what? Then the coach asks for everyone’s attention at the sideline and Jason drops to a knee and proposes in front of a full football stadium! We have been married 19 years!

Who knows the secret?

Courtney H.: Tyler took me on a nice date and then when we came back to my parents house he took me to the room/spot where we had talked about getting married. He had the ring in his pocket and got down in one knee and said a bunch of nice things and proposed to me. I think that how it went. It was late…. Ha ha
Jessica P.: Deric took me to a park in Idaho next to a river where my sister and Andrew set up a computer and rose petals. When we got to the bench, Deric sat me down and played a slideshow video full of pictures of us to Beautiful Soul (cheesy I know but I loved it!). He then took me to where the rose petals where arranged in a heart and knelt down! Got it all on video too.

Travis S.: Proposed at Anime Expo while she was in cosplay! And on July 4th! Lol! 

Stephanie F.:  My husband took me to one of our church’s temples. We spent the day inside and then we walked around the gardens outside. We sat down on a bench and we were just talking. Well sort of. I had a feeling he was about to propose and so we were both kind of nervous. I was wearing a promise ring he had given me in high school and he started playing with it and took it off. He swapped it with my engagement ring and slipped it on my finger and went down on one knee. This is where it gets kind of fuzzy because I literally cannot remember him saying “will you marry me” or me saying “yes” but I know it happened. It is kind of funny how sometimes that moment you have been day dreaming ends up being a blur of just pure happiness.

How do you want to propose?

Christin R.: Ooohhhh I have a real good one! Including missing 2 flights, my grandma nearly missing the whole thing, a male dog with a bow, and disguised birthday surprise for my mom she actually knew about to try and surprise me (it worked) and me not seeing the ring for nearly 6 mins.
Daryl K.: Mike came over to my house and we were trying to decide what to do for the day. I had my back turned to him looking something up on the computer and he says, “I know what we can do”. I turned around and he’s down on one knee and says, “We can get married! Will you marry me?!” He later told me he had wanted to propose at the beach where we spent our first date, but earlier that day he had picked up my ring and just couldn’t wait any longer!! It was So sweet! He could have proposed in Taco Bell for all I care!! ♥️
Stephanie S.: It was a Saturday and I had to work some overtime. He was anxious for me to get to his parents house and kept calling to see where I was. He wanted to have a picnic lunch in the park. When I got there we drove over to a park. He took me to a beautiful spot that overlooked the town and an orange grove. Then, he had some pomegranate seeds and began relying the story of Hades and Persephone. He told me that he wanted me to be with him forever and asked me to marry him

The big secret?

The how doesn’t matter so much. You know who your proposing. Think about them and how much you love them. Be real. Nothing else matters.

Share your real life proposal stories below!

100 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

100 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

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Pros and Cons of a Naked Wedding Cake

Annie and Julius' stunning botanical inspired wedding by Sara and Rocky | www.onefabday.com

Naked cakes came into the wedding scene and has seemed to steal the show of wedding cakes. They are defiantly trendy and despite their nakedness there is a lot of room for creativity. BUT, are they “practically perfect in every way?” Not necessarily.

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How to Get Started on Your Wedding Vows

Volcano Elopement

“A Smokin’ Hot Elopement at a Volcanic Crater” : Green Wedding Shoes 10/27/2017

Writing your wedding vows can be intimidating. That is in part that writing itself can be hard as you try to put into words ideas that often do not yet have a language. Then you add in trying to express the love you have for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and you have yourself a true writers block, stage fright, how on earth do I do this nightmare!

So let’s see if we can help!

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Managing Kids at your Wedding

small flowergirl drinking hershey's milk at a wedding ceremony

CUTEST KIDS AT WEDDINGS: Del Sol Photography

You love kids. You have kids. Your sister has six kids. Everyone has kids. You are totally cool with everyone bringing their kids to your wedding.

BUT

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How to Avoid the Overdone Wedding Trend

Avoiding the Overdone Wedding Trend

“9 Trends Wedding Planners Hate as Much as You Do” By Jessie Mooney 6/27/2017

Just like there are blogs -like ours- that share wedding ideas, hoping to inspire new brides to create and enjoy their dream wedding, there are also those that hate on every wedding trend that has every existed. Like every one. Sure, trends change. Some can be “overdone” and other’s end up not being functional and need to change.

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How To Choose Your Maid of Honor!

The Maid of Honor is your Right Hand GalWho your maid of honor is, is a pretty important decision because the maid of honor can end up playing a big role in how smoothly your wedding goes. Most women simply look at who their BFF is at the time of the wedding, but you might want to be a little more particular when choosing who will play that role.

First stop: How involved do you need the maid of honor to be?

This is the first stop because it is probably the most important factor to consider. If your maid of honor will need to take on responsibilities like planning a shower, bachelorette party, attending any and all dress fittings for yourself and your bridesmaids, coordinating the flowers, picking up GiGi from the airport (we could go on and on), then it is really going to narrow down who you should choose as your maid of honor. Once you have determined what you need, consider the following:

  1. Age:
    • It may not be a good fit if who you want is not yet an adult. One bride said she regretted asking her 16 year old sister to serve as maid of honor. They were close and she didn’t think she needed too much help with the wedding, but she ended up needing more than the sister could handle. Turned out that even the smallest tasks were too much for her. The bride either had to do it completely by herself or be dissapointed.
  2. Location:
    • This one can be hard because the person that you want to be your maid of honor may just live too far away to help. If you choose to have a maid of honor that lives more than 30 minutes away, just be sure that your expectations are consistent with how hard it will be for her to step up. Some brides will even choose to have co-maids of honor to balance it out.

Second Stop: What emotions are going to be involved?

What we mean by this is that choosing a maid of honor may involve a bit of drama. For example, we had a bride tell us that she really wanted her best friend to be her maid of honor. However she had a childhood friend who wanted to be it too. So when it came to decide, she chose her current best friend and her other friend refused to attend the wedding. This doesn’t mean that you should make your decision around other people’s feelings. It is your wedding. However, it may be a good idea to make sure your aware of any complicated reactions to your choice.

If you are particularly nervous about this possibility, try reading our blog “How to Tell Someone They Won’t be a Bridesmaid” to get some guidance.