If we are all being honest here, we know that there is a certain level of stress to be expected in planning an event like a wedding. Below are five strategies to help you keep that stress level down, if not get rid of stress entirely!
The Best Marriage Advice You’ll Ever Hear…
For today’s blog, we decided to ask a question of as many people as we could possible connect with to hopefully give our brides easy access to what real brides, real couples, have found to be the truly best marriage advice they have ever heard.
Earlier in the week, we shared on our Facebook page what some of us at Weddingcollectibles.com have found to be the best advice, but we thought our brides and grooms deserved a much larger sample size! The thing is, a lot of relationship and marriage advice will end up contradicting itself. This is because every person and relationship is a little bit different (that and people love to spout cliches for the heck of it as they sign your guest book). So this list represents what we saw popping up the most and we quoted who we think really said it best!
The top 10 advice from the thick of it:
- “I just saw a video clip from Will Smith lately. He says that it is not our partners job to make us happy, it is our own responsibility. Once you remove the expectation of your partner to make you happy you can enjoy them for who they are.” – Tiffany
- “Listen.. don’t just hear! ” – Carin
- “You have to want to be kind more than you want to be right.” -Heidi
- “As cliche as it sounds, it is definitely true! “Never go to bed angry”. My husband and I have been together 6 years, married for 2, and have a 9.5 month old. We do disagree sometimes and get in the bed angry, but we always talk it out and work it out right before we fall asleep. Definitely has helped us!” – Maria
- ” ‘Always fight naked because then your problems just won’t seem that important anymore’. I always write this in couple’s guest books when they want a little note. Someone wrote it in mind and it just stuck with me. It was kind of a joke, but when you think about it, it’s kind of cool. When you are both hands down vulnerable with each other, it’s a lot easy to get over being mad.” – Kim
- “Don’t ever stop dating and getting to know each other. People always talk about growing apart, but if you keep getting to know one another as you go through life, it’s a lot easier to still know and love each other.” – Debbie
- “Do the opposite of “It’s better to ask for forgiveness, than permission”. That line just doesn’t work in a marriage” – Kevin
- “Limit money talk to small daily check ins. You’ve got to both know what’s up and be on the same page, but leaving it till you’ve got problems or talking about it for hours is just going to create frustration.” -Kayla
- “Play hooky. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day things. Be sure to break it up and be spontaneous. Have some silly fun!” -Cheri
- “Say I love you in your spouses love language. Some people just need to hear, other’s need gestures, and other’s physical contact…whatever it is, figure out your spouses love language and say I love you every day” -Demi
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Naked cakes came into the wedding scene and has seemed to steal the show of wedding cakes. They are defiantly trendy and despite their nakedness there is a lot of room for creativity. BUT, are they “practically perfect in every way?” Not necessarily.
Writing your wedding vows can be intimidating. That is in part that writing itself can be hard as you try to put into words ideas that often do not yet have a language. Then you add in trying to express the love you have for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and you have yourself a true writers block, stage fright, how on earth do I do this nightmare!
So let’s see if we can help!
You love kids. You have kids. Your sister has six kids. Everyone has kids. You are totally cool with everyone bringing their kids to your wedding.
Just like there are blogs -like ours- that share wedding ideas, hoping to inspire new brides to create and enjoy their dream wedding, there are also those that hate on every wedding trend that has every existed. Like every one. Sure, trends change. Some can be “overdone” and other’s end up not being functional and need to change.
First. The term bridezilla kind of sucks.
Who your maid of honor is, is a pretty important decision because the maid of honor can end up playing a big role in how smoothly your wedding goes. Most women simply look at who their BFF is at the time of the wedding, but you might want to be a little more particular when choosing who will play that role.
First stop: How involved do you need the maid of honor to be?
This is the first stop because it is probably the most important factor to consider. If your maid of honor will need to take on responsibilities like planning a shower, bachelorette party, attending any and all dress fittings for yourself and your bridesmaids, coordinating the flowers, picking up GiGi from the airport (we could go on and on), then it is really going to narrow down who you should choose as your maid of honor. Once you have determined what you need, consider the following:
- It may not be a good fit if who you want is not yet an adult. One bride said she regretted asking her 16 year old sister to serve as maid of honor. They were close and she didn’t think she needed too much help with the wedding, but she ended up needing more than the sister could handle. Turned out that even the smallest tasks were too much for her. The bride either had to do it completely by herself or be dissapointed.
- This one can be hard because the person that you want to be your maid of honor may just live too far away to help. If you choose to have a maid of honor that lives more than 30 minutes away, just be sure that your expectations are consistent with how hard it will be for her to step up. Some brides will even choose to have co-maids of honor to balance it out.
Second Stop: What emotions are going to be involved?
What we mean by this is that choosing a maid of honor may involve a bit of drama. For example, we had a bride tell us that she really wanted her best friend to be her maid of honor. However she had a childhood friend who wanted to be it too. So when it came to decide, she chose her current best friend and her other friend refused to attend the wedding. This doesn’t mean that you should make your decision around other people’s feelings. It is your wedding. However, it may be a good idea to make sure your aware of any complicated reactions to your choice.
If you are particularly nervous about this possibility, try reading our blog “How to Tell Someone They Won’t be a Bridesmaid” to get some guidance.