For today’s blog, we decided to ask a question of as many people as we could possible connect with to hopefully give our brides easy access to what real brides, real couples, have found to be the truly best marriage advice they have ever heard.
Earlier in the week, we shared on our Facebook page what some of us at Weddingcollectibles.com have found to be the best advice, but we thought our brides and grooms deserved a much larger sample size! The thing is, a lot of relationship and marriage advice will end up contradicting itself. This is because every person and relationship is a little bit different (that and people love to spout cliches for the heck of it as they sign your guest book). So this list represents what we saw popping up the most and we quoted who we think really said it best!
The top 10 advice from the thick of it:
“I just saw a video clip from Will Smith lately. He says that it is not our partners job to make us happy, it is our own responsibility. Once you remove the expectation of your partner to make you happy you can enjoy them for who they are.” – Tiffany
“Listen.. don’t just hear! ” – Carin
“You have to want to be kind more than you want to be right.” -Heidi
“As cliche as it sounds, it is definitely true! “Never go to bed angry”. My husband and I have been together 6 years, married for 2, and have a 9.5 month old. We do disagree sometimes and get in the bed angry, but we always talk it out and work it out right before we fall asleep. Definitely has helped us!” – Maria
” ‘Always fight naked because then your problems just won’t seem that important anymore’. I always write this in couple’s guest books when they want a little note. Someone wrote it in mind and it just stuck with me. It was kind of a joke, but when you think about it, it’s kind of cool. When you are both hands down vulnerable with each other, it’s a lot easy to get over being mad.” – Kim
“Don’t ever stop dating and getting to know each other. People always talk about growing apart, but if you keep getting to know one another as you go through life, it’s a lot easier to still know and love each other.” – Debbie
“Do the opposite of “It’s better to ask for forgiveness, than permission”. That line just doesn’t work in a marriage” – Kevin
“Limit money talk to small daily check ins. You’ve got to both know what’s up and be on the same page, but leaving it till you’ve got problems or talking about it for hours is just going to create frustration.” -Kayla
“Play hooky. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day things. Be sure to break it up and be spontaneous. Have some silly fun!” -Cheri
“Say I love you in your spouses love language. Some people just need to hear, other’s need gestures, and other’s physical contact…whatever it is, figure out your spouses love language and say I love you every day” -Demi
Mike M.:Made her dinner at her place before she got home. Had the first clue for a scavenger hunt under her plate. When she was done eating I removed her plate and the hunt began. I wrote all the clues. The last clue said, “I hate it when there’s rocks in my shoe!” It led her to her closet where I had planted her ring in one of her shoes. When she came out of her closet I was on a knee and asked for her hand in marriage. This June will be 23 years! 😍😍
Looking for a fun way to explore wedding vendors and get a taste of what you want your wedding to not only look like in pieces, but together as a whole? Try attending a Big Fake Wedding event! It is exactly what it sounds like – a fake wedding put together with real vendors. It is attended by brides and designed to connect you to exactly what it is that you want. Right from the horses mouth, The Big Fake Wedding is a “a bridal show alternative complete with an emotional vow renewal ceremony, light bites, and a dance-party reception”. Doesn’t that sound so fun?
Before attending the event, you can look at their inspiration board. This will help to get a feel of if it is a style you would be interested in. What’s more is tickets to attend the events are only $25. So, you don’t have to spend a lot to get connected to vendors your love!
Even if you prefer the ease of shopping online, attending an even like this is a great way to get a better idea of what it is you want. This is an especially good idea if you haven’t attended a lot of weddings. It can be a little scary to just order items for your wedding online, especially when you see online shopping fails turned into memes. Once you’ve seen in person what it is you like, it will be less overwhelming looking through cake toppers online.
A great thing about these events is you can find them in most states. Click here to see a list of upcoming Big Fake Weddings near you.
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It is traditional in many cultures to wear a white wedding dress. Surprise! Okay, so that isn’t a big shocker. For the most part it has to do with representing purity or in some cultures, virginity. Either way when someone says wedding dress, people think white. Wedding dresses have grown in styles, but the traditional white is still the most dominant and breaking the trend of the white wedding dress is often the most statement making veer from tradition. So if you run in a more traditional crowed – grandpa will have a heart attack if you walk down the aisle in a gorgeous ruby gown – be prepared for possible back lash. However, for those wanting a unique wedding dress, this can be one of the funnest wedding traditions to break
Jewel Toned Gown
Really this could be any bold color, but jeweled tones are one hundred percent on trend this year. A jewel toned wedding dress would be keeping with top trends, but also be a huge step out of tradition! The key to still keeping the bridal look will be in all the styling. Imagine this unique wedding dress with an emerald lace veil and a bouquet of all white flowers. Can you say show stopper? Continue reading →
When a Bride and Groom set up their registry, they have an idea in their head of what they want as wedding gifts. Sometimes those must haves turn into dust collectors, never leaving the box. Other times, well meaning loved ones skip the registry. They go with something sweet and sentimental in mind or something really last minute and again, the gift is pushed to the back shelf until the couple finally decides to toss it.
If a bride and groom in either of these situations have the receipts to do returns and figure out that they want to return it early enough, then they may be able to salvage the bad gift before it ends up in the trash. Unfortunately, it is pretty typical for that gift receipt to not be included.
You may think it’s harsh to say your must have may turn into a waste or if your a wedding guest that your well meaning gift could end up in the trash? But, think about all the things you have purchased and used once. Then think about putting another person’s opinions and tastes into the equation. It’s not a far fetched prophecy!
Raise your hand if you have a wedding invitation posted on your fridge and need to find the perfect wedding gift! Take a look at these top three wedding gifts that every newlywed couple wishes they had!
1) Kitchen Aid Standing Mixer
The Kitchen Aid standing mixer is the premier standing mixer for households from beginning to more professional levels of cooking and baking. What makes this product great is that it really is high quality and the couple won’t have to replace it any time soon. Furthermore, it is really customizable to the couple’s wants and needs; this customization includes the color, style, and size, as well as the many different attachments. This makes the Kitchen Aid standing mixer a top choice for a wedding gift.
2) High Quality Pots and Pans
Pots and pans are one of the number one household items that are taken for granted and that can make all the difference in a couples family dinner game. It may be a good idea to either go off the couples registry or ask if they prefer copper, stainless steal, or ceramic, etc. This may not be the most important decision they make in life, but it is a pretty big one.
3) Gift Cards
A lot of people think that gift cards are not personal enough for a wedding gift. However, as many newlyweds will tell you, pulling out that $100 gift card when they need it most is a pretty spectacular gift. One bride even said that she had forgotten about a gift card and found it about three months after the wedding. “It was so awesome! I thought it was a $5 gift card that I got in a promotional purchase, but it turned out to have over $100 on it and covered everything we needed and still had some left over. BEST. GIFT. EVER!”
Who your maid of honor is, is a pretty important decision because the maid of honor can end up playing a big role in how smoothly your wedding goes. Most women simply look at who their BFF is at the time of the wedding, but you might want to be a little more particular when choosing who will play that role.
First stop: How involved do you need the maid of honor to be?
This is the first stop because it is probably the most important factor to consider. If your maid of honor will need to take on responsibilities like planning a shower, bachelorette party, attending any and all dress fittings for yourself and your bridesmaids, coordinating the flowers, picking up GiGi from the airport (we could go on and on), then it is really going to narrow down who you should choose as your maid of honor. Once you have determined what you need, consider the following:
It may not be a good fit if who you want is not yet an adult. One bride said she regretted asking her 16 year old sister to serve as maid of honor. They were close and she didn’t think she needed too much help with the wedding, but she ended up needing more than the sister could handle. Turned out that even the smallest tasks were too much for her. The bride either had to do it completely by herself or be dissapointed.
This one can be hard because the person that you want to be your maid of honor may just live too far away to help. If you choose to have a maid of honor that lives more than 30 minutes away, just be sure that your expectations are consistent with how hard it will be for her to step up. Some brides will even choose to have co-maids of honor to balance it out.
Second Stop: What emotions are going to be involved?
What we mean by this is that choosing a maid of honor may involve a bit of drama. For example, we had a bride tell us that she really wanted her best friend to be her maid of honor. However she had a childhood friend who wanted to be it too. So when it came to decide, she chose her current best friend and her other friend refused to attend the wedding. This doesn’t mean that you should make your decision around other people’s feelings. It is your wedding. However, it may be a good idea to make sure your aware of any complicated reactions to your choice.