Bridesmaid Dresses: To Match or Not to Match, That is Every Bride’s Question

Bridesmaid Dresses: To Match or Not to Match, That is Every Bride’s Question

Wedding Bee

One of the many wedding cliches that everyone likes at and every bride’s potential bridesmaid fears is the ugly bridesmaid dress. There have been years of wedding and generation of bridesmaids that have endured ballooned sleeves, satin, velvet, lace worthy of a doily, and prints that can be found in your grandmother’s left over quilting scraps. It is like a train of “What was she thinking” and five minute trends.Now, we realize that some of what we call ugly today, may have truly been the style ten years ago, but the thing we are hoping to help you avoid is being in that list of ugly dresses ten years from now five years from now, next years and the day those horridly wonderful curtains walk down the aisle. 

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What your bridesmaids wear is going to be a direct reflection of your (the bride’s) taste and since having ugly dresses is such a cliches, it is going to be something everyone will look for. So, what are the danger zone and how can you avoid fitting the cliche? Let’s take a look at the options.

1) You pick everything head to toe and everyone wears the same dress.

Hot Pink Bridesmaid DressesLet’s go on a little journey. Think about the families you see at Disneyland or tourist attractions that are all matching. If the kids are all under five it might be cute, but any older and it could tip on the tacky side. Depends on how it is done? Okay. Now remember your family photos. Is anyone a little too matchy? Is it over bearing? A little? Still sometimes cute? Okay, now think about your bridesmaids. Do they all have the same hair color, skin tone and body type? No. Then they are not going to look good in the exact same thing. (ie. don’t put a red head in bright orange, hot pink, or red and don’t put someone with really pale skin in pale peach. It just won’t translate very well. We don’t say this to bash on matching bridesmaid dresses, as you can see the very first picture in this post has bridesmaid in matching dresses and it looks great, but we just want you to be careful because this is the highest danger zone for falling into the cliche. If you really want to have all your girls matching, then take them with you shopping. This doesn’t mean you need their opinion per se, but so you can see how everyone looks in the dress options. Or, take a look at option two. 

2) Pick one element, they pick the rest (perhaps with some guidelines).

{Wedding Trends} : Bridesmaids in Skirts - how to styled, accessorized and mix-match

This really is the best  middle ground option. It works best if you pick out a skirt for all the girls to wear and then have them find and pick out their tops, accessories, or shoes. Other things you could do is pick out a cardigan, statement necklace, or matching shoes. Once you have sent out the piece you are require them to wear, they can then fill in the rest. It is, of course, usually best to give them a color palette to work from so that everyone coordinates with each other and your overall wedding look, but, other than that, let them decide. This gives you flexibility, but also allows you some more control. 

3)Pick a color and they pick the rest.

The Secrets of Successful Mismatched Bridesmaids

This option is for the bride that doesn’t have her heart set one everyone matching or would like one less thing they need to fully decide on. The idea here is that each bridesmaid would be told what color scheme you want and then would be given the freedom on deciding what to wear. By doing this, you allow your bridesmaids to find things that they will feel beautiful in and will want to wear again. If you are worried, you can have everyone send you pictures if you want to keep tabs on how everyone will coordinate, or if everyone is local, you can have a girl’s day shopping trip so that everyone can work off of each other and find what they want.

The Grand Exit: A Sparkling Send Off

The Grand Exit: A Sparkling Send Off

Charming Montecito Estate Wedding

Sparklers

The Send Off Trends

Brides everywhere are jumping to create a send off that screams style and sizzle. Why? Not only does the bride and groom need a grand entrance, they need a grand exit. For the wedding the bride walks up that aisle, music is playing, all eyes are on her or are peaking to try to glimpse the priceless expression on the grooms when he sees his bride in her wedding dress. It is a a turning the heads of the crowd moment that is tailor made into the wedding. You really don’t have to do anything. It will be spectacular. Just don’t fall. But, for the nights end, when the bride and groom leave their honeymoon to embark on their honeymoon and journey as a husband and wife, there are a lot more ways to make it a wow moment. Traditionally, guests would line the exit, wave goodbye, and throw rice as the couple walked out smiles all around. Then it started where people blew bubbles and now the big thing is to distribute sparklers and have a gilded exit. Personally, I hope this doesn’t go out of trend.

Two Things to Consider

1) Will you have a big line or small one?

If you are having a small wedding and will therefore have a small send off, the line of sparklers may not be your best bet. Part of what makes the sparkler send off so amazing is that the sizzling lights become overwhelming and truly represent the love and excitement of the people there. If you have  a group of fifteen people, it just won’t have the same effect.  

2) Make sure the guests know the game plan.

It is important to help your guests to know where you need them to be and when. This can be as simple as having a sign posted with the sparklers or having one or two people coordinate and instruct people where to go. The thing with sparklers is that timing will need to be perfect. What happens if the guests light there sparklers up before you make your exit? You leave on awkward “oopsies”, laughs, and small streams of smoke. One of the best things you can do is to line everyone up first, then have a crew hand out the sparklers, then when you are ready, that same crew will go down the line and light everyone’s sparklers and then whoever you have coordinating the timing will tell you when to go. You can have the crew lighting everything light every other (or so on) and then have the guests light each others from there. Also have a set plan for how your guest are to throw away their sparkler once it is out. One simple and cute way to do this is to have tin or decorate buckets that have a few inches of water on the bottom available. This would be especially perfect for any country vintage, or shabby chic  wedding style.

 

How to Pull Together the Perfect Gift and Sign in Table

How to Pull Together the Perfect Gift and Sign in Table

As your guests enter in on your wedding or reception one of the first things they will do is try to find the gift table and sign in, so there are a couple of things we suggest doing in order to make this first introduction to your special day absolutely perfect.

1: Combine the gift and sign in table.

Having these two together will make your guest’s lives a whole lot easier. They do not necessarily need to be the same table, but at the very least have them in the same location.

2: Have the table(s) near the entrance of your venue. 

This does not mean have it at the front door, but have it along the path or entry way the guests will walk through in order to get to the wedding festivities. By having it along the way, you will avoid getting clumps of people waiting to sign in at the same place that you were planning on having dancing. Plus, it allows for your guests to drop their gift off and sign in right when they get there so that they don’t need to worry about it during the rest of the wedding celebrations.

3: Get creative with the sign in book.

Burlap & Lace Guest Book

You are completely welcome to having the traditional sign in where you have a guest book and the guests simply sign their names, but there are three fun trends that will kick it up a notch and allow you to capture more memories. The first is a photo guest book. These are really easy and a lot of fun. You can order these at Michael’s craft store, Walmart, Sam’s Club, or  Shutterfly. Shutterfly is a costumer favorite even though it is a little expensive, but as a perk, when you register at Target, they will often give you a gift card to Shutterfly that can off set the cost. Each store does have customizable options, Shutterfly just has the most. With each, however, it is easy to do. You simply select pictures (these can be your engagements) and then place them in the book. The idea would be that you would provide pens or sharpies (metallics work best if you have a dark background) and then you have you guests sign and write messages along the margins and next to the pictures. These are easy, fun, and a great way for you to create a more personalized guest book.

Wishes Cards Tan

The second trend is signing cards. With this you provide a decorative box and set of stationary cards like the ones above and each guest takes a card, writes their names and a message to the bride and groom. This is an easy option that can provide a little more intimacy for the guest because it allows for them to feel like they are writing you an individualized message, rather than just signing along with a group. Instead of cards, you could also do Polaroids of your guests. This would take a little more work in that you would need to have a designated photographer and the guests may have to wait longer, but it is also a cute way to put all the faces, names, and sweet messages together for the later years when you reminisce about your wedding day.

Initial Canvas Signature Guest Book

The final trend that can really step up your guest book is doing a frame sign in. This option is great in that it allows you to create sentimental decor for your future home together. It also allows guests to feel more like they are a part of something. However, depending on the size print and frame you get, this may be a better option for a smaller wedding so that the print is not over crowded with signatures. Although, it might be a good kind of overwhelming to see the print fill up to the point where its two dimension design looks like it is going to overflow.

4: Don’t forget a Card Box.

Scrolling Heart Birdcage Card Holder

Not everyone is going to bring a wrapped present and you definitely don’t want to lose cards from your wedding guests, so having a card “box” out is a great way to keep it all together and make your guests feel like you are accepting card gifts just as happily as a wrapped present.

Three Fun and Corny Date Ideas

Always Date Each other

You’re in love and you’re getting married. That is the end goal for the relationship right? We grow up playing barbies, ken and barbie date and then once we have decided they are in love they get married and that’s that. Every Disney princess movie ends in that fairy tale wedding, happily every after, the end ( at least until they make a sequel that makes you cringe). In real life relationships there will be moments that you will be caught up in the romance and butterfly feeling that will move your love story right along to the wedding bell ending, but that is just the thing, that decision to get married and being married does not end the necessity to court and woo one another. So, here are some light hearted date ideas to help remind each other the point of the five page wedding planning check list. 

 

Ice Skating Around the World

1: Rollerblading or Ice skating.
This is an especially fun one if neither of you are very coordinated. With this date you can hold on to each other, or if one of you is rollerblading adept, one can help the other, and this will keep you physically close throughout the night. Then, with the very real possibility of falling over and looking ridiculous, you open yourself up to be a little vulnerable. If being vulnerable together is something you have a hard time with, this date would be a perfect exercise or way of tricking yourself into letting your guard down a little more. Plus, there is bound to be a photo booth at your local roller rink that you can squeeze on into and take those silly and cute photos that are designed especially for making memories.

"GROOM (under new management)" Wedding Transfer2: Make a Bet.
Let us explain. Buy coordinated Bride and Groom t-shirts or iron-ons and go out to the mall, a theme park, or otherwise crowded place. Before leaving, each of you place a bet on the number of times someone asks you about your wedding, openly stares, gives you a “I’m a stranger, but I am happy for you” smile. Then, simply keep a small notepad in your pocket or purse and as you go throughout the day mark down the responses. The one whose guess was closest can receive a “prize” of whatever sort you decide upon before heading out. You can, and should, of course do date-like things while the bet is going on, but this can add an extra twist and inside laugh for the day for you and your groom.

A Weekly Fangirl Discussion: A Couple That Plays Together Stays Together3: Geek Out.
Rent your favorite two player video game – be it a childhood favorite or your current weekend unwind. This can be fun because it can bring out the competitive nature of the most tame person. You may want to establish a “I am actually really frustrated by this game” safety word, but otherwise enjoy some junk food, and see how creative you can get with your smack talk.

A Gift from You to Your Groom: Don’t Forget it is His Wedding Too!

A Gift from You to Your Groom: Don’t Forget it is His Wedding Too!

When people bring up wedding planning and that “big day”, they usually focus on the bride and what she wants. Now, this isn’t wrong or bad. A majority of brides have been day dreaming about their wedding day since they were little girls. This does not, however, that there are not any grooms out there that haven’t been doing the same, and even if they have not, that does not take away from the fact that it is there wedding day too. So, we would suggest making sure your groom is given the same amount of doting as the bride. 

NFL Engraved Pint Glasses

Start by treating him to a night out with the boys to celebrate his new commitment. Why only have him celebrate at his bachelor’s party? Through all the stress of wedding planning, relaxing with the guys and watching the sports game will be the perfect way to keep tempers down, just like the bride needs time with her girls to get pedicures and catch a chick flick. What better way to make sure your groom knows you appreciate his support and help then gifting him with sports paraphernalia like the above engraved pint glasses and a free night to not worry about wedding planning woes? 

Black Border Designer Cuff Links & Tie Clip

Then treat him to some masculine wedding “bling”. One of the perks of the wedding day for a bride is the excuse to get new earring, bracelets, or necklaces to accessorize with her beautiful wedding dress. Typically, this means getting the best jewelry to create the best and most classy wedding look.  Why should the bride be the only one to enjoy some classy glitz. So, go order your groom some cuff links and a tie clip to dress his wedding suite. This is the time to let yourself buy things that you wouldn’t typically have reason or justification for spending the money on. 

 

The Bridal Veil: Beautiful and Timeless

The Bridal Veil: Beautiful and Timeless

Scattered Pearl Border & Cut Edge Veil

Earlier this week we discussed ways for the bride to style her hair for her wedding day and one of those options is to wear a veil. However, we didn’t go into great detail on the reasoning or history of why brides are traditionally meant to wear a veil. Brides have been wearing veils since ancient Greek and Roman times. The veil was said to be able to protect the bride’s purity – the bride being at her purest on her wedding day – from jealous spirits. At its beginnings, the veil was worn in bright reds and yellows because those were the two dominant colors that would scare away evil spirits. Then, the veil also symbolized protecting the bride’s modesty from the view of the husband. In ancient times and in some cultures today, during courtship, the bride would be veiled as a way of protecting her modesty and purity. The bridal veil tends to have more particular meaning in religions, though despite the many various faiths, the meaning of the bridal veil seems to come down to the same idea: To protect or cover a woman’s purity. 

Single Layer Veil in Soft Tulle with Beaded Edging

In today’s culture the weight of that meaning is often dismissed and is instead exchanged for being a fashion accessory the bride can choose from. This isn’t a cut and dry negative and neither is it entirely a positive transformation. What it does do is it give brides a lot more options. By not being limited to the symbolic nature of the bridal veil it frees the exact style or design of the veil giving brides a wide selection of veils. This does not mean that the veils beauty and meaning is completely lost, but it may mean that brides that do have the desire adhere to the traditional use and symbol of the veil will need to make the extra effort to emphasize its importance and meaning. 

What to “Do”: Deciding How to Style Your Hair for Your Wedding Day

What to “Do”: Deciding How to Style Your Hair for Your Wedding Day

One decision when planning your wedding day that usually induces high levels of stress for the bride and some possible mocking from a teasing groom or brother is how the bride wants to do her hair. Laugh if you want, but the how to style your hair on your wedding day is a pretty big deal and will effect your overall wedding look. As the bride, you will of course have the advantage of that pure happiness glow, but to pull together a beautiful look you need to pay extra attention to your hair.

popular formal updos for long hairstyles  Wedding Hair with a Veil

First off, do you want to wear your hair up or down? Al lot of brides will try desperately to grow there hair out as long as they can for their wedding day with the intention of wearing it long beautiful locks. But if your facial features are shown off best with a shorter hairstyle you may want to forgo the push for longer lengths. A Short spunky do can be made elegant plenty easy. Regardless, if you do want to wear your hair down for your wedding we have two suggestions: Firstly, don’t just wear it in a straight everyday look and secondly add some sort of hairpiece or veil. We don’t suggest having your hair down and straight because it is rather casual and everyday look. Adding some soft waves or curls is a great way to add a little extra umph and elegance to your look. Also, with adding a hairpiece you will further distinguish yourself as the bride particularly from your bridesmaids. Wearing your hair up does tend to more easily give you added elegance, but, like when deciding if you should have a short or long hair cut, deciding between an up and down do will require the same facial feature considerations. Furthermore, you will still want to consider the addition of a veil, headband, tiara, or other hairpiece to mark you as queen of the day. Besides, what bride wants to turn down the opportunity for a little added sparkle?

Eden Crystal Flower Headband

Bridal headbands like the one featured above are what are trending right now. They are beautiful and, typically, and unobtrusive addition that highlights the bridal look without overpowering it. Typically they can be found with floral or beaded designs that can easily mesh with your gorgeous wedding dress.

Scrolls & Flowers Tiara in Silver

The tiara is the perfect choice for brides that want to feel like a princess on their wedding day (or are a self proclaimed princess everyday). They work great with up do’s and can be as queenly or as subtle as you want to take it. Overall, the bridal tiara would be the crowning jewel to your bridal look. 

2-Tier White Standard Tulle Veil - Floor Length

The bridal veil is probably the most traditional bridal accessory you could choose, but they still come in all shapes and sizes. The one above is a particularly dramatic undertaking, but if grand entrances are your thing, this veil will definitely help make that happen. If you want a veil, but want something a little less, then try something like our “Scalloped Lace Border Veil“. This veil has a particularly traditional look and is undeniably beautiful. Either veil will enhance and act as a soft framing of you on your wedding day. 

 

The Sentimental Keepsake Wedding Cake Topper: Willow Tree

Willow Tree Figurine Wedding Cake Toppers

Willow Tree ® "Together" Wedding Cake Topper Figurine

Brides of this generation probably grew up seeing the sentimental figurines of the Precious Moments Figurines that were designed to capture those sweet I love yous and tender moments shared between loved ones that often sat on the mantels, dressers, and vanities of women and mothers everywhere.  Today, the best sweet and sentimental figurines are the Willow Tree figurines. You can, of course, find the widest selection of figurines for any moment at the Willow Tree Store, but Wedding Collectibles has a handpicked selection of Willow Tree Figures that are a perfect choice for your wedding cake topper.

Willow Tree ® "Promise" Wedding Cake Topper Figurine (Small)

The “Promise” Willow Tree wedding cake topper is a perfect choice for any couple. It is symbolic of the sweet intimacy between couples and embodies that moment when nothing else in the world matters except being in each others arms. It is absolutely perfect for a wedding too because it can act as a depiction of your first dance as husband and wife. Overall, the Willow Tree cake toppers are perfect for shabby chic, country, vintage, and even once upon a time wedding themes. They really do embody romance.

"Love Ever Endures" Willow Tree Cake Topper

For older couples the “Love Ever Endures” wedding cake topper is an absolutely beautiful choice. As the motto of this cake topper indicates, this cake topper is representative of love that lasts through thick and thin to only get stronger throughout the eternities of time. There really is a sweetness that comes with Willow Tree figurines. Part of what makes them wonderful is the absence of facial features because it makes it so you can find yourself seamlessly in the figures.

Willow Tree ® Lesbian Gay Wedding Cake Topper Figurine

While Willow Tree calls the above cake topper “My Sister, My Friend”, we have found that it can work wonderfully as a same sex lesbian wedding cake topper. This cake topper represents close companionship, the type of relationships where you know the person will never leave your side, and that knowledge that the person holding your hand knows you perfectly.

Willow Tree cake toppers are beautiful, sentimental, and will keep the memories you are making alive. 

Calla Lily Weddings: Full of Beauty, Elegance, and Individuality.

Calla Lily Weddings: Full of Beauty, Elegance, and Individuality. 

The white Calla Lily is a wonderful choice for the center stage position of a floral themed wedding. It is most interestingly misnamed since it is technically not a Calla and also not a Lily. This fact may speak to some brides or grooms that have found themselves categorized or named. What is more, is that you can consider the Calla Lily as a symbol of the love you have being so great that it is undefinable. The white Calla Lily is also a symbol for magnificent beauty and innocence. Used in a bridal bouquet it can emphasize the brides innocence, beauty, and purity. Furthermore, the Calla Lily is often associated with the religious symbolism  of Jesus’s resurrection since the flower is shaped like trumpets making it the perfect flower choice for the religiously centered wedding. The Calla Lily’s stately elegance and extensive symbolism, makes it a perfect addition or focal point for any wedding type.

If you are having a floral themed wedding or if you would like to take advantage for the symbolism of the Calla Lily, you will (just as we said with the daisy themed wedding) of course want to have more than just the Calla Lily in your bouquet and there are a ton of fun ways to incorporate this flower in your wedding decor.

"Lily" Ring Bearer Pillow - 38 Colors Available!

Include it in the details of the ceremony. The above ring bearer pillow is not necessarily patterned off of the calla lily, but is rather designed after the lily flower. This allows for you to have some variation is your floral accents, but also keep similar themes, tones, and symbolism. This would work particularly well if your wedding theme is floral because it would be a clever way to hint towards your main flower, while also having a floral accent in the wedding that is not a literal flower. Other details that the Calla Lily can easily be present in is the unity candle  and flower girl basket.

"Love's Embrace" Cake Top

Next, Take it to the reception! Try starting with a Calla Lily Cake Topper. We like the one above because its smooth and enveloping design seems to match the elegance and shape of the Calla Lily. You can also try using a Calla Lily accented cake topper base and then pair is with any cake topper to match your wedding theme. For example, if you are doing a religiously themed wedding you could pair the “Calla Lily DIY Cake Topper Base” with the beautiful “Love Verse Bible with Doves and Flower Accents Wedding Cake Topper“.

Calla Lily Guest Book

The, the guest book may not get a ton of attention, but it is a great way to implement the Calla Lily in the small details and helps not create an overbearing look. You can also look for Calla Lily designed cake serving sets, champagne flutes, and centerpieces.

No matter how you choose to incorporate the Calla Lily, it is sure to be an elegant and beautiful addition to your magical day. 

A Daisy Wedding: The Embodiment of Love & Loyalty

A Daisy Wedding: The Embodiment of Love & Loyalty

DIY Daisy Wedding Arrangements – Doing The Daisy Thing!

The Daisy is a symbol for loyal love, purity, patience and simplicity. It is a flower that is said to be over 4,000 years old, popping up in ancient Egypt and Crete (Living Arts Originals). At your wedding, the daisy flower would be a wonderful addition in order to emphasize the strength and loyalty of your new marriage. It is also often associated with playfulness and including daisies in your wedding is a wonderful way to spread smiles and the feeling of simple and pure joy.  The daisy is a bright and happy flower, but it is also unobtrusive in that it won’t always scream to take center stage.  

Bouquet Flower Cake Topper

There are several different ways to incorporate the symbol of the daisy flower that goes beyond having daisy flowers in your bouquet creating that daisy small touch. It starts with a daisy accented wedding cake topper. The above cake topper features an elegant flowing veil, is hand painted, and is accented with two daisy bouquets. Its soft tones and cheerful daisy accents is a perfect way to incorporate a small touch to tie your daisy theme together. 

Daisy Bouquet Wedding Cake Server Set

This cake server set is another way to add that hint of daisy to your wedding and matches the daisy cake topper above. The cake server set is likely to be caught in a camera close up if you are keeping the tradition of cutting the cake, so you are going to want the knife you cut with to be decorative as well as functional. 

DIY Daisy Wedding Arrangements – Doing the Daisy Thing!

What you will need to decide is how far you want to take the daisy touch. Is it going to be in the background as a small connector between decor and design? Or is it going to be the main theme?  If it is going to be the theme, then you are going to want the daisy to be present in everything: the color scheme, table clothes, china and flatware, guestbook, and any other detail that ends up on that planning check list. However, not everything should have a daisy on it, but you will want the colors to coordinate with the daisy. Lucky for you, the classic daisy is white (a very popular and easy wedding color) and yellow (a happy and bright color) which allow you to create a fresh, romantic, and light wedding theme. Just like any wedding theme, it is important to remember to have fun and to not over do it!