How to Choose Your Wedding Party

How to Choose Your Wedding Party

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Who Makes up the Wedding Party?

When trying to figure out who is in the wedding party, you have to navigate first what cultural or religious traditions you wish to uphold. For example, for many christian weddings a candle lighter will light candles at the wedding alter before the mother of the bride is seated. If you decided to include this tradition as part of the ceremony, the candle lighter (usually a pre-teen; ages 10-13) is a member of the wedding party. Or in a Jewish wedding you may have Huppah carriers, and they would be considered a part of the wedding party, or since in many Jewish weddings it is not traditional to have an official wedding party, then they would be a part of the Shushavim (those close to the bride or groom that help with the wedding – for more information see Attendants: A Glossary of Who’s Who in the Wedding Party). For a more basic wedding party, the members will include: The mother and father of the bride,mother and father of the groom,maid of honor,best man,bridesmaids, the groomsmen, junior bridesmaids/groomsmen, pages/train bearers, the flower girl, the ring bearer, and ushers. Overwhelmed? Don’t Be!

SO Whose Who?

  • Mother and Father of the bride and groom: Don’t sweat it, this one is decided for you! However, if your parents are divorced and remarried you can feel free to include their new spouses and if you were raised by your grandparents or another relative, they would stand in here. It is up to you!
  • Maid-of-Honor: The maid-of-honor is exactly how the movies portray her. This is your bestest and closest girlfriend or sister. She has been by your side through the thick and thin, perhaps is the friend you grew up with or the one that makes you feel like she has always been there. She is the sister you compete with, but when the bomb drops she is there picking you up and planning revenge on whoever dropped that bomb! If your she is actually a he, that works to. The maid of honor is also considered and called the honor attendant or the best person. Using one of these titles allows for any gender to be the bestie you have at your side throughout all the wedding planning. 
  • Best Man: The best man is basically the male version of the maid of honor. He is the brother or the guy you consider a brother. Or just like the maid of honor, he could be a she and would then be that best person or honor attendant.
  • Bridesmaids: These are your best gals. The ones you trust to be a support and help through the wedding. They will be the ones that help you address invitations, navigate through the florist crisis, and plan that wild bachelorette party. You can consider the maid of honor as the CEO of the bridesmaids.
  • Groomsmen: Again, groomsmen are like the male version of the bridesmaid. Their most obvious task is to plan that bachelor’s party, but they also have the task of keeping the bride from murdering the groom before the wedding; ie. making sure the groom isn’t late, doesn’t miss appointments to pick out ribbon colors, and isn’t hung over during the ceremony.
  • Junior Bridesmaids/Groomsmen: These are your bridesmaids and groomsmen that are on the younger side (Aged 10-17). Junior meaning quite literally junior. They can match the bridesmaids and groomsmen or you can dress them in a younger and more modest look that still coordinates with the rest of the party. 
  • Pages or better known as Train Bearers: These are the cute kids (age 6-9) you have that walk with you down the aisle carrying your dress train. If you don’t have a train, or do not need someone to carry it for you, then you will not need a page. 
  • Flower Girl: You can have 1-2 flower girls (Age 5-9). Some will just walk the aisle with a bouquet, or if you want they can carry baskets with flower petals and scatter the petals as they walk. Either way, they help make your grand entrance, so just remember that the younger the flower girl, the less control you have over her choice to or to not eat the flower petals. 
  • Ring Bearer: The ring bearer will carry the ring down the aisle and hold it for the groom. This can be a young boy (age 5-9), but like the flower girl, you want to be careful he won’t decide to eat the rings. Another option for this is to have the honor attendants carry the rings. 
  • Ushers: If you have a large guest list, you may include ushers. These will be those who you have help guide the guests to their seats. Groomsmen

How Many Bridesmaids and Groomsmen Should I have?

We would suggest having no more than six for each group, making a total of twelve, but even that may be too big. Try trimming it down to three or four each. Perhaps have your two honor attendants, and then six bridesmaids and groomsmen total. 

What about my cousin and my brother’s girlfriend and my brother’s girlfriend’s sister?

STOP. Only choose bridesmaids and wedding party members based on their relationship to you and your groom. If you have best friends that fill the list for potential bridesmaids, you don’t even have to ask your sister. Granted, you may want to sit her down and let her know, but it is not a requirement. Only ask those who will be able to support and help you through the wedding and who you have a close relationship with. Many people even consider bridesmaids to be a role specific to friends of the bride and that a sisters role is simply sister of the bride.

 

Bridesmaid Gifts: Three Options for a Great Gift

Bridesmaid Gifts

Why They are Necessary

To Answer the question, “Do you have to give out bridesmaid gifts?”, the answer is technically no, but YES.  Each and every Bride is unique in taste, style, and situation, so to say you have to do anything might seem silly, but it is better etiquette to give gifts. Why? The girls or women you ask to be your bridesmaids, well, they are your girls! You ask them because they are your family, your best friends,and the girls that have been there for you always, so now that you have set them apart from the rest, it is the perfect opportunity for you to say thank you. You are saying thank you for their support and help in planning your big day and for all their love and support throughout life. It is kind of a big deal. 

3 Ideas for a GREAT Bridesmaid Gift

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  1. Jewelry: You might see this as a duh gift, but that is just what makes it number one on our list. Jewelry is great because you can use it to say something sentimental, sweet, and just-between-you-two.  Wedding Collectibles has a wide selection of unique necklaces and bracelets, as well as a selection that can be engraved in order to personalize it for each of your bridesmaids. When deciding on a gift, we suggest to really stop and consider what it is your bridesmaids will appreciate most, which is why we highly recommend necklaces like the one above.  This is a gift that could be worn at the wedding, and your bridesmaids could wear it throughout their everyday life. Additionally, if you want to do something a little extra, a necklace, bracelet, or pair of earrings, can be given alongside a jewelry boxWhite 3pc. Ikat Print iPhone 5, iPad Case & Sleeve Set - Save 20%
  2. Technology Cases: This gift might seem a little less affectionate, but it is perfect for a bride and bridal party that lives right along the pulse of modern society. You can decide between a bright or more subtle color pallet, to choose to give a set for all their technology devices or to just pick one, and you have the option of cases that can have the bridesmaids entire name on it or just her initials. It’s bright color options, personalization, and current attitude, make these gifts a perfect bridesmaid gift!"bridesmaid" Wedding Transfer
  3. Just For a Bridesmaid: What we mean by this type of gift is that it is a gift set aside specifically for a bridesmaid, so much so that it will most likely say bridesmaid somewhere on it. Some fun ideas for this gift include, t-shirts, sweats, jackets, make-up cases, and the bridesmaid survival kit! These type of gifts are a great way to celebrate the wedding day and their role in it. 

 

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Top 3 Fashion Choices a Wedding Guest Should Avoid

Number One: No White.

Unless you a part of the wedding party and the Bride specifically puts you in white, as a guest, you should under no circumstances wear the color white because it is explicitly and traditionally reserved for the bride.  Even if the bride is wearing an nontraditional colored wedding dress, it would still be more respectful of you to not wear white. There are the exceptions of your dress being patterned where white is not the main color, but you just want to be careful. It would put a damper on the special day if your wardrobe choice caused the bride -who is already stressed out- to send you angry eye daggers for matching her on her big day.  This fashion don’t may seem obvious, but it is surprisingly ignored or forgotten quite often. So, be the best guest you can be, and don’t rain on your bride’s white and lace parade. 

Lipsy Lace Dress with 3/4 Sleeve

This white lace dress by Asos is gorgeous, but is a big no-no for the wedding guest!

Number Two: Don’t dress for the club. 

Every guest wants to look their best, and for some, their best means looking smoking hot. We just suggest that you tone it down for the wedding. Avoid mini skirts, extremely low cut tops, cut-out dresses, and anything overtly flashy or head-to-toe sequinned. Even if the wedding reception is designed to have dancing and more of a party atmosphere, any wedding event asks for a more modest fashion choice in order to not ‘steal the show’. This does not, of course, mean that you can’t have a little spunk in your dress, just that your best party dress may be one step out of place at a wedding event. 

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Number Three: Don’t wear anything you are uncomfortable in.

Weddings involve a lot of time, even for the guest. You may be walking from the ceremony site to the reception site farther down, the parking may not be as close as you thought, or you may end up dancing -or the at the very least standing- most of the night. Whatever it is, you don’t want to be caught in uncomfortable heels that you have never worn before. This “don’t” could very easily be translated to “Don’t wear new heels”. It may be tempting to splurge on a new pair of heels that seem to start calling your name as soon as that invitation gets put up on the fridge, so if you do buy new pumps, break them in and don’t save them for the wedding. Also, remember that whatever you wear, you are stuck in it. So avoid materials that itch and don’t try and squeeze into anything that is too tight. It might look killer in the mirror, but if you are going to be scratching at yourself or fidgeting in it, then it might turn into a flop rather looking hot. 

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These snazzy high heels may be calling your name, but can you walk in them?Dance in them? For several hours?

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How Guests Can Dress Their Best for a Fall Wedding

How a Guest Can Dress Their Best

As a guest, getting dressed up for an event like a wedding can be a little tricky. There are questions of how formal or casual the wedding will be; if it will be indoors or outdoors; if there is a specific theme that the bride wants people to adhere to; what colors should be avoided in order to not blend in with the wedding party; and even what the fashion trends are for the season. So, the question in this blog article is, what should guests wear to a fall wedding?

Warm Tones

Dressing warm for a fall wedding does not necessarily mean dressing to withstand cold weather. If the wedding is indoors, guests have a lot more wiggle room to show off their wedding ready bodies in elegant warm toned dresses, ties, and suites. A light strapped dress or even an elegant strapless gown can work in any fall wedding. The key for a strapless or thinly strapped dressed is keeping the color tone warm: Think maroon, custard, forest green, navy, rose, orange, brown, and black. Other elements that are trending this fall are mod and tea shaped dresses, as well as lace and crochet patterns.

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Longer Lengths

Knee length or floor length dresses are the ideal for a fall wedding. Not only do they work better for the colder weather, but the knee length ensures a classy look , and the floor length dress allows you to create a mixed look of formal and casual. With such a simple floor length dress like the one below, we would suggest a sparkling hair piece like a crystal comb or some large dazzling earrings.

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Sassy and Classy

If you want to wear something a little more vibrant, just stay away from the neon and highlighter colors that have been so popular the last few summers. Instead, go for a lively color that embodies the same intensity of the sun hitting fall leaves. You will want to pay attention to how formal the wedding style is when deciding between a mini skirt or a strapless knee length, but regardless you can still get that spunk from that perfect pop of color. Or, if you want to give yourself a little more edge, go for a dress with a gorgeous pattern on it! Patterns work great in the fall and will gladly say “I like to dance more than that monotone dress”. A nice touch with these styles below could be a chic feathered head piece

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